Do Opposites Attract?

Seeing Sharon Osbourne on America’s Got Talent last night, inspired this blog post. I really like Sharon Osbourne, or at least the person she seems to be on TV. She appears smart, generous and caring and also strong, tough and hard working. As I watched her on TV, I wondered if her marriage is based on the "opposites attract" theory.

If you are a talker, it can be nice to have a friend who is a listener. But if you are adventurous, you probably want a friend who is adventurous too.

In my experience with Arbonne, a network marketing company, I have attended many training meetings. One prominent message is duplication. I show a prospect how I work my Arbonne business and then they do the same with their prospects. The system seems to work best when the prospect is similar to me, not the opposite of me.

Everyone attracts all types of people and for different reasons. Some attractions are about similarities and some are about dissimilarities. Law of Attraction vs. the Opposites Attract theory.

I like my dentist because he is not like me. He is not much of a talker, at least in the office. Generally, I am a talker. But not when I am at the dentist. I don't want to make conversation when I have a drill in my mouth or when my mouth is numb after a procedure.

People can't change is another frequently heard theory. But people can and do change all the time. I change from a talker to a non-talker when I am at the dentist.

What a businessperson needs to know is how and when to change so you attract the right customers. When do you need to be similar to a customer and when do you need to be opposite? To be really successful, you need to make those adaptations sincerely. You need to be multi-faceted in a real way. You can only get away with faking it for so long.

Comments

[Dentists in Scottsdale]

I always like trips to the dental clinics since I was young. I was never afraid of the dentist. Two of my dentists in Scottsdale are nice chatters, though. I think they feel comfortable with their patients who actually listen to their stories. I'm a guy so I get a little shy with a woman dentist. I'm quiet most of the time.

- Fred Collinsworth